17. It’s a Long Road…

…and It's a Good Life if You Don't Weaken: More ID Comments

This will be a fairly short post, given that I'm buried in marking right now. I've had a few posts on ID. This post is about all of the places that I've had to change my name, and, if possible, my gender. The list is really long, and takes a long time. More importantly, it's really annoying, because it means having to re-live coming out experiences over and over when I thought I was largely past it.

Here's a representative sample of all the places I've had to change my name and gender, if possible.

  • Provincial change-of-name procedure
  • Birth certificate (name only: they require "transsexual surgery," whatever the hell that means
  • Social Insurance Number (name only, like the birth certificate)
  • School records: BA, MA, PhD
  • Work records: there are multiple systems at my university, all of which required changing.
  • Driver's licence
  • Provincial health insurance
  • Passport (I haven't done this yet: I'm hoping to get lucky and get the gender changed too)
  • Private health insurance
  • Pet insurance
  • Vet information
  • Car insurance
  • Car registration
  • Dentist records
  • Medical records
  • Banking information at 3 banks, each with slightly different requirements
  • Neighbours
  • Landlord (including a new lease)
  • Sports club
  • Magazine subscriptions
  • Online subscriptions like Apple
  • Endless email accounts and login information

There will be more, I'm sure, but this is the state of what I've gone through so far. Some have required a certified true copy of my name change form (I had a notary give me about 15 of these in one sitting, anticipating this). I've had my gender changed where possible, which is almost all of these: only my birth certificate, SIN, and passport haven't had the gender changed. Only the latter is really "possible" without SRS, and even then it's a bit of a crapshoot. I'll have a separate post about that, I'm sure: it's horribly discriminatory and makes travel for trans people hell. It actually results in a lot of harassment.

The worst part of this has been going to ancillary places like the vet to have my information changed. It means that I have to go in, generally in person, and tell them that I'm trans and in the process of transitioning (well, hell, I've fully transitioned by this point; all that's left are some physical changes that take a long time). I've purposefully avoided doing a lot of these tasks until I absolutely had to, because it's uncomfortable for me to have to keep doing this, even though I'm publicly out and don't hide the fact.

So far, at least, everyone's been really friendly and accommodating, which is just awesome. I would like to hear about other people's experiences, though, as I suspect that mine are quite atypical in how smooth things have gone.

Yours truly,