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53. Oppositional Sexism, Cissexism, and Transphobia

Reasonable Expectations and Learning Experiences Gender binarism is the view that there are two, mutually exclusive genders: man and woman. This tends to align with there being only two, mutually exclusive sexes: male and female. (I don't buy into the clear sex/gender distinction, so I use male/female/man/woman interchangeably.) Oppositional sexism is the view that the 

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39. “Hey, I Bet You’d Know: How Do Guys Think?”

Short Answer: No Idea, Stop Asking Every once in a while I get asked about how guys think. The implicit, or sometimes explicit, presumption is that I must have some sort of insider information, since — they seem to think — I used to be (or still am?) a guy. This post is about how 

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37. A Thank You

An All-Too-Rare Email This may surprise you, or maybe it won't, but people rarely reach out to give feedback about this blog. I sometimes hear, eventually, that people really enjoy it, but they never directly tell me that they're enjoying it. I sometimes hear that it's really helping people, but, again, most people aren't going 

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36. An Instance (or Three) of Gaslighting

In Response to Complaints About Being Mispronouned I've written a few posts related to some misponouning incidents in my old department (I've since moved departments to take up a postdoctoral position). I want to keep pushing this, because not only were the incidents themselves horrible, but the responses by others — people who're ostensibly allies 

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