8. Confronting Those who Misgender Me

Giving People a Yellow Card In Gender: An Ethnomethodological Approach (1985), Kessler and McKenna describe the act of “gendering” someone — or the process of gender attribution — as when a person, almost always subconsciously, attributes a gender to another person. Within seconds of meeting someone, we have usually already categorized them as “male” or 

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5. Being on Autopilot

Excuses for Using the Wrong Name or Pronouns, and My Ambivalence This post might make you feel bad, defensive, or angry, and for that I’m sorry. A gender transition typically involves a lot of changes. Now, not everyone changes their name. Some people were named with gender neutral names (this includes me, actually; although, the 

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